Protect the Spark

For people who feel alive when they dream

If you are someone who imagines, plans, hopes, and opens your heart — you carry a spark.

That spark is not fragile — but it is sensitive.

You don't need to dim it. You need to protect it wisely.

When openness meets indifference

Sometimes you show up warm, present, curious — and someone still looks past you. They exclude you. They don't meet you.

This does not mean you were wrong to be open.

It means that moment required a boundary, not self-blame.

Gentle boundaries for dreamers 🌱

"I don't stop dreaming because someone couldn't meet me."

I simply protect the spark better next time.

This is wisdom, not withdrawal.

A small practice

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Before sharing something tender, ask yourself:

"Has this person shown they can hold warmth without withdrawing?"

If the answer is unclear — pause.

Protection is not fear. It's wisdom.

What Protection Does NOT Mean

Protecting your spark does NOT mean:

  • Becoming cold
  • Cutting people off dramatically
  • Refusing to talk
  • Building walls

It means changing the level of access, not the presence of connection.

Think of it like volume control, not an on/off switch.

The Method: Layered Access 🔑

You don't have one heart setting. You have layers.

🔹 Layer 1

Surface / Social

(safe for coworkers)

This is where most coworkers belong.

You can:

  • Be kind
  • Be friendly
  • Talk about neutral things
  • Collaborate
  • Laugh
  • Be present

But you do not:

  • Share tender dreams
  • Share emotional processing
  • Seek validation
  • Open unfinished inner material

Example language:

"That's something I'm still thinking about."

"I'm figuring it out."

"We'll see how it unfolds."

This is not fake. This is appropriate containment.

🔹 Layer 2

Warm but Contained

(select people)

These are people who:

  • Listen without rushing
  • Don't dismiss
  • Don't withdraw when things get real

You can share:

  • Ideas in early form
  • Excitement
  • Reflections

But still not everything.

Example language:

"I'm exploring this, not decided yet."

"I just wanted to say it out loud."

🔹 Layer 3

Inner Spark

(very few people)

This is where your raw dreaming, vulnerability, and emotional truth go.

This layer is earned, not assumed.

What to Do With That Coworker

Very concrete guidance:

You do not need to:

  • Confront them
  • Explain yourself
  • Withdraw completely
  • Punish them emotionally

You simply reassign them to Layer 1.

That looks like:

✔️ You stay polite

✔️ You stay open in conversation

✔️ You listen

✔️ You engage professionally

❌ You stop offering emotional openness

❌ You stop expecting warmth

❌ You stop checking whether they "get" you

This is not exclusion. This is clarity.

A Simple Rule You Can Remember

When you feel the urge to open up, pause and ask:

"Has this person shown they can stay present when I'm real?"

If the answer is:

  • No / not really / I don't know → stay in Layer 1
  • Yes, consistently → maybe Layer 2
  • Deep yes → Layer 3

No drama. No story. Just adjustment.

About Keeping Your Heart Open 💚

You were afraid that protecting the spark might mean:

"Do I have to stop being me?"

No. You stay warm — just not exposed.

You can be:

  • Kind without explaining
  • Present without revealing
  • Open without offering your center

That's maturity, not withdrawal.

"I can be open-hearted without being open-access."

That sentence alone protects your spark.

Memorize this. Return to it. Let it guide you.

Signs someone can hold your spark 💫

These people are rare. When you find them, they're worth keeping close.

Reflection Space 📝

Who in your life has shown they can hold your spark gently?

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Remember 💛

Your spark is not a burden. It's what makes you you.

The right people will see it, honor it, and never ask you to dim it.

Keep protecting what keeps you alive.